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Learn how to make a self-care toolkit to help you feel better when life gets tough.
This week, I felt like I was trying to walk through Jello. Sure, I managed my routine. The kids and I did homeschool every day. I cooked dinner every night. I even managed to get out of my pajamas every day, which, let’s face it, is an accomplishment when you know you won’t see anyone you’re unrelated to.
I couldn’t manage to feel any real energy or enthusiasm, though, and this was a sure sign to me that I needed to pay a little more attention to my self care. I dug into my self-care toolkit, gave myself a little love, and I’m happy to report that I’m feeling like myself again.
What’s a self-care toolkit, you ask?
Well, in short, it’s a collection of resources that you keep on hand that can help you feel better when you’re struggling. The items in your self-care toolkit are things that help you feel great. They comfort you, make you happy, and help you relax.
Here’s the problem.
Most moms I know give zero thought to what would help them feel comforted, happy, and relaxed. They get so busy doing for their families that they don’t consider self-care until it’s an emergency.
So, just like those emergency kits we’re supposed to keep in our homes and our cars in case of blizzards, wildfire, or earthquakes, I encourage you to plan ahead to acquire a self-care toolkit.
This kit needn’t be bulky or expensive. Even minimalists can hide away a couple of small surprises for a rainy day. Because rainy days will come, and when they do, you are going to have something to look forward to, Mama.
How to create your self-care toolkit
The process of creating the self-care toolkit is pretty easy. You just have to remember the things that make you feel great.
What’s your favorite scent, most comfy outfit, softest blanket? What makes you laugh, makes you think, and makes you feel beautiful?
If you’re stumped here, it can help to think of your five senses and what each of them loves.
What feels good to you? Because my feet are always cold, I can’t be truly comfy without a pair of soft socks. You might like to include something similarly cozy like a fuzzy bathrobe or a weighted blanket.
What kind of small little treat would make you feel pampered? Is it a piece of decadent chocolate? A chamomile tea? A glass of wine? This treat won’t work if you just feel bad about eating it afterward, so whatever you choose, be sure that you can enjoy it guilt-free.
My favorite scent is lavender, hands down. A lot of my stuff is lavender-scented anyway, but my toolkit has a lavender sachet and a small bottle of lavender essential oil for a little boost that I don’t get every day.
What aromatherapy scents could you include in your kit to make you calmer or happier? Do you love the smell of a particular candle, oil or body wash?
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Is there a painting, an old photo, or an inspirational quote that makes you smile? Do you have a vision board of your ideal life? Any of these things would be good to keep in your toolkit to uplift you when you’re down.
While we’re talking about what you see, I want to address your home for a minute. Do you have a haven space? A special corner in your home that is just yours? If you don’t, it’s time to get one, and to take good care of it. Often, our own bedrooms and bathrooms are the yuckiest places in the house, since nobody sees them but us.
Where can you go to recharge, though, that doesn’t bug the shit out of you because it looks cluttered or dirty? Have at least one comfy spot, maybe two so you’ve got a backup in case of emergency. Oh, and while you’re at it, make sure your family has been taught to respect a closed door.