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Mother’s Day disappointment affects lots of us. It doesn’t have to! Check out these tips to ensure that your next Mothers’ Day doesn’t suck.
On the best Mother’s Day ever, I spent the morning sipping champagne with a few of my best mom friends.
We sat around the table in a kid-free house, laughing, sharing stories, and eating all the brunch-y foods our husbands and kids always balk at when we try to serve them at home.
Our husbands and kids? They were a few doors down destroying my house. It was perfect.
Now, before you get jealous and assume our families are more thoughtful than yours, I’ll let you in on a little secret.
You, too, can have an awesome Mother’s Day (or 40th birthday, or next Wednesday, for that matter).
Disappointed on Mother’s Day
The stakes can feel super-high on Mother’s Day.
After all, this is the chance for our partners and children to show us how much they love and appreciate us. It’s our chance to escape some of the routine and drudgery that’s often synonymous with motherhood. Heck, if we’re lucky, we might even get a macaroni necklace from our kids.
What is Mother’s Day? It’s a chance for us to be seen by the people we love.
And let’s face it—everyone else is looking, too. I know I’m not the only one who has scrolled through Facebook hate-liking Jennifer’s gourmet breakfast-in-bed that her perfect hubby and robot children made.
Even worse is when that mom at the playground asks what your husband and kids did for you, and your answer is something along the lines of,
We just had a quiet day…well, my husband did…you know, we don’t really tend to celebrate those Hallmark holidays anyway…I know my family loves me…we show our love in other ways…”
Who wants to admit that her motherhood didn’t inspire some grand gesture? (Especially when we make grand gestures all the time.)
Moms are the makers of magic
I might not know you, but I’d be willing to bet the farm that YOU are typically the one who brings the magic to your household.
You make sure the cupcakes have sprinkles, the birthdays have party hats, and the Tooth Fairy leaves a little glitter behind. On this one day of the year, we moms feel like it’s someone else’s chance to make the magic. And if no magic is made, we can go down the rabbit hole into full-on existential crisis mode—
- Maybe I’m a terrible wife and mom whose family thinks she’s not worth celebrating.
- Are my kids are completely self-absorbed?
- Maybe I’m raising sociopaths…or maybe I married one.